How do you fix your mistakes?

[texta]

We all make mistakes (except obviously IRS), but what general approach do you take to fix the dumb things that you do?

I'm a perhaps too pragmatic person so I would usually solve my mistakes in terms of thinking about what kind of outcome I'd like.

So for example if my gf and I have a fight and perhaps she says some mean stuff and I say some mean stuff then because I want a good relationship I will man up and apologise and maybe be extra nice/helpful for a while. I'm not in control of her actions so if she wants to apologise that's totally up to her.

Anyway, what's your approach (and not just in a relationship context)?

[Jay]

The poll question and the thread title don't correlate. What are you after - how we solve problems or how we solve mistakes? Because they can be quite different.

In addition to that the poll options are quite limiting - there is no option, for example, for solving things on a case by case basis as circumstances dictate, nor is there an option for compromising, or agreeing to disagree.

[Xanafalgue]

Abort it.

[Pauly]

The poll question and the thread title don't correlate. What are you after - how we solve problems or how we solve mistakes? Because they can be quite different.

In addition to that the poll options are quite limiting - there is no option, for example, for solving things on a case by case basis as circumstances dictate, nor is there an option for compromising, or agreeing to disagree.
life as we know it could end thanks to this thread!

[FrozenSoul80]

I learn from them and don't repeat them or bring them up over and over. Dwelling on your mistakes only leads to regrets and depression. Learn from it, move forward.

[Lex]

pretty lame thread texta

[Second]

My work life is filled with mistakes at the moment. I always feel bad when I make a mistake, but I feel even worse when it cost the company a full case of Wild Turkey due to my inattentiveness.

I try to learn from mistakes, but I'm not perfect and sometimes I can get quite heated and start blaming other factors. Once I've clammed down, I tend to see what a dick I've been and start sorting them out.

[texta]

I learn from them and don't repeat them or bring them up over and over. Dwelling on your mistakes only leads to regrets and depression. Learn from it, move forward.That doesn't really answer the question.

You've dropped your toaster in the bath (luckily no one was in it). Leaving it in there, but resolving to not drop another toaster in there or bring the matter up anymore doesn't seem like at all a good solution.

Or to you the gf example I provided. You stuff up and make someone angry. What approach would you take to resolving the situation? Just pretend it didn't happen but make sure you don't do it again? Do you think that's likely to work?

Absolutely once you've fixed your mistake move on, but I'm not asking that. I'm asking what approach you take to actually fixing the mistake.

[faceless]

I blame them on other people and then eventually take responsibility for playing the blame game.

[Second]

That doesn't really answer the question.

You've dropped your toaster in the bath (luckily no one was in it). Leaving it in there, but resolving to not drop another toaster in there or bring the matter up anymore doesn't seem like at all a good solution.

Absolutely once you've fixed your mistake move on, but I'm not asking that. I'm asking what approach you take to actually fixing the mistake.

He obviously asks the Dolly Doctor for help, duh.

[Kotche]

superglue

[AranchineD]

None of the options, I lie through my teeth to get out of the situation with no consequences without blaming it on other people.

And THEN if it's possible I go and fix the mistake without anyone else finding out.

[IRS]

Duct tape, super glue and cable ties.

edit: damn.Kotche is always one step ahead

[Stevorooni]

I usually just hope it fixes itself and try not to do it again.

[Kotche]

hah cable ties, genius!

[Spudzilla]

Blame is better to give than recieve.

[Kotche]

unlike blowjobs

[Sytadel]

I don't know, it's too general a question. Depending on the mistake either (a) something principled and enviable (b) something calculated and clever or (c) something impulsive.

[FrozenSoul80]

Absolutely once you've fixed your mistake move on, but I'm not asking that. I'm asking what approach you take to actually fixing the mistake.

Murder all witnesses.

[incompatible with life]

I'm hopeless at lying and even more hopeless at trying to pin it on someone else (sometimes even admitting responsibility for something that was really more someone else's fault), so clearly the only thing I have left is commign clean. Unfortunately it doesn't mean I learn from the experience though

[Big Kev]

Whoa. I think eventually you'll get to the point where you're sick of getting in trouble for other people's faults, and start taking responsibility for yourself instead. At least I certainly hope so. I will NEVER take the blame for something that's quite blatantly not of my doing. Ever.

[Second]

Growing up being the problem child, I've grown quite used to the blame being shifted on to me, even if I wasn't involved in whatever incident. I still sometimes have a knee-jerk reaction of coming out swinging if anyone even implies something was my fault when it wasn't (or if someone calls me a liar), although I think I'm improving.

[AranchineD]

Actually I have the habit of taking the blame for one of my friend's problems if I'm the first person asked, but most of the time they're good enough to come forward by themselves after a while.

[Fenrir]

I've been toying with the idea of writing down all of my life's memories, and trying to pinpoint where I've gone wrong, why, what elements or people were involved, why they behaved like they did, and so-on - to whatever end.

As for immediately? The last big moralistic mistake I made, I burnt bridges. Probably not the best strategy, but probably better than the outcome that awaited me had I stuck around.

[incompatible with life]

Whoa. I think eventually you'll get to the point where you're sick of getting in trouble for other people's faults, and start taking responsibility for yourself instead. At least I certainly hope so. I will NEVER take the blame for something that's quite blatantly not of my doing. Ever.
Well it's usually been for minor ish things that I've had a hand in anyway. So I just couldn't be bothered making all that much of a fuss.

[Vindik8or]

Quicksave -> Quickload.

[Sytadel]

I've been toying with the idea of writing down all of my life's memories, and trying to pinpoint where I've gone wrong, why, what elements or people were involved, why they behaved like they did, and so-on - to whatever end.

Tried it, doesn't work a whole lot better than introspection. Even with a formal understanding of operant psychology :P

[FrozenSoul80]

When trying to fix something, stop and think; what would Macgyver do?

Actually, you should probably be applying this logic to everything you do in life.

[Fenrir]

Tried it, doesn't work a whole lot better than introspection. Even with a formal understanding of operant psychology :P
I am, of course, either a) going to learn this the hard way, or b) going to not bother out of laziness. >_>

[fishfishmonkeyhat]

Quicksave -> Quickload.

Ctrl + z!

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[sausage]

I never make mistakes. All of you are inferior and deserve to go into the oven.

[Big Kev]

I like the oven. There's chicken kievs in there.

[dimorphic]

Problem with me is I am a liar. I am trying to fix the problem but it has currently caused me to be in a pretty bad place in my life, so if anything this should be a bloody wake up call for me.

I also burn bridges, which isn't a good way to go about things.

[incompatible with life]

I like the oven. There's chicken kievs in there.

Not to mention that it's the all important source of cake.

[Slippery]

I often don't do anything about a problem and just do my best not do whatever it was that I did again.

As I've gotten older I've done more and more to be apologetic or w/e is required by the situation however.

[Big Kev]

Problem with me is I am a liar. I am trying to fix the problem but it has currently caused me to be in a pretty bad place in my life, so if anything this should be a bloody wake up call for me.

I also burn bridges, which isn't a good way to go about things.

I'm curious as to what lies you've spread that have got you in trouble.

[FrozenSoul80]

Not to mention that it's the all important source of cake.

I don't know what crazy household you live in, but I keep all my cake in the fridge >_>

[aceaussie]

hmmm lets see
Work/School - Own Up, I didn't do something right, It won't happen again.
Relationship - It depends on my partner, I usually don't give a flying ****** as i can easily replace her so i ignore and blame on her as it usually is due to her clingy-ness >.< If she is really special then I stop half way and say "Babe, This is just a pointless arguement, We both aren't right and whatever is wrong WE can fix it, You know I love you *Kiss*" Usually fixes it.
Other - Man up, I guess.

[incompatible with life]

I don't know what crazy household you live in, but I keep all my cake in the fridge >_>
Well how many cakes (aside from cheesecakes) do you know of that are produced in the fridge?

Come to think of it though, unless it's a cake with lots of cream I generally don't put cake in the fridge. Waste of good fridge space.

[Jay]

Other Man - up, I guess.

What exactly does this mean?

[Big Kev]

What exactly does this mean?

It means he stuffed up his punctuation.

"Other situations: Man up, I guess."

Man up = be more manly.

[aceaussie]

What exactly does this mean?
Own up or step up to something basically.
Sorry all my friends just say "Man Up" whenever there is a challenge and whenever i have to tell someone else i have ******ed up, so I used it.